Once my 2nd child was born I realized the need to spend one-on-one time with each child. I also quickly recognized that time was almost impossible to find. I had to work hard—really hard—to give each child individual attention. Each new child and all the new activities that come with having more children just multiplied my struggle.
I am so excited to have found something that works for me! This past month I tried out my new “Date with Momma” idea. It was met with enthusiasm from all.
Once a month I am going to go on a date with each child. The dates are scheduled on each child’s birthday anniversary. (For example, David was born on Sept 2nd so on July 2nd I took him out on a date.) This helps me because I have a date to plan around. This makes it intentional. The dates are going to be time slots of one-on-one time with Momma. I have explained to each child that some months it might be a bike ride with mom or a trip to the park with momma. Other months it might be dinner with mom or another activity (that costs a little bit of money). If we have something else that needs to happen on the birthday anniversary (like in July we were traveling during the week I would have had 2 Momma dates and I couldn't manage the time), we will just postpone the date a week.
What I realized last night as I was on my last July date is that I am benefiting from this as much as my children. The time is spent focused on laughing and loving my child. I am not distracted by my housework, other children, the computer, or anything else. I am not looking at my watch trying to mentally plan what’s coming next in my day. I am focused on my child. I am wrapped up in loving that child. I wanted to bless my children. I never imagined how much it would encourage me as a mom.
This month the kids all choose different activities. Oh ya, this month for the 1st date, I gave them each a choice when it was time for their date. They all made different choices. I think that highlights their individuality. David chose to go bowling. Thomas chose to go out for dessert. Jonathan chose to go swimming.
Here are some pictures of our 1st Dates:
I didn't take Elisabeth on a date. I am cherishing her special moments... like dressing her up in sweet dresses and letting her fall asleep in my arms. Here's the most recent picture of me holding her.